The kink checklist. Your pace, your privacy.

How this kink checklist works

1. Read each item. Every idea has a short description and a safety note, so the label is not the whole conversation.
2. Mark want, maybe, or pass. Answer for yourself today; there is no right balance of answers.
3. Keep it or compare it. Copy the text for your own notes, or save a list when you want a private partner comparison.

Free · no registration to fill it in · 40 items in 8 categories · usually a few minutes to make a first pass

A kink sheet you fill in online

This is a fillable kink sheet — sometimes called a kinklist or a kink inventory — that works on a phone and saves as you go. Mark the 40 core items here, or open the full list of kinks to rate 120, including a “fantasy only” answer for things you like imagining but don’t want to do.

As a kink list for couples, it works the same way for both of you: each person fills in their own, and a comparison shows only what you both said yes or maybe to. Your passes and your limits list stay private, so neither of you has to be the first to name something.

How this list is different

• A safety note on every item. Most kink lists are just names. Each item here carries the one thing to know before trying it — shears within reach, check circulation, replace the verbal safeword when the mouth is busy.
• Forty, not four hundred. A list you finish is more useful than a list you abandon. These forty cover the ground a first conversation needs; the deep guides on each practice live in the kinks library.
• Nothing leaves the browser until you say so. No email wall, no PDF download, no login to see your own answers. Copy the text or save the list — both are your choice.

What yes, maybe, and pass actually mean

Want means the idea is something you are open to discussing or doing in an appropriate context. It does not cancel the need to agree on timing, intensity, who is involved, or how either person can stop.

Maybe is useful information, not a weak yes. It can mean “I need more information,” “only with a person I trust,” “not today,” or “only under clear conditions.” Treat it as an invitation to ask what would make the answer clearer, never as permission to proceed.

Pass means no. It does not need a defense, a deadline, or a workaround. A person can also change an answer later in either direction; the point of a checklist is to make room for an honest answer now, not to lock anyone into one.

Using the checklist with a partner

1. Each of you fills in the list separately, without looking at the other’s screen.
2. Copy your lists as text and read them together, or save both to a private map and pair. The private compare shows shared want or maybe answers only.
3. Talk about the maybes first. A maybe usually means “yes, under conditions” — the conditions are the conversation.
4. Leave passes alone. A pass is an answer, not an opening for persuasion.

Private comparison is designed to reduce pressure, not to replace a conversation. Shared answers tell you where discussion may begin; they do not establish a plan, a promise, or consent for a particular moment. Keep details that do not belong in a comparison private until you actively choose to discuss them.

Safety and consent

A checklist is not a substitute for checking in. Before trying anything, talk about what each person wants, what is off limits, what signals mean pause or stop, and what practical preparation is needed. Read the safety note attached to the item, especially where equipment, restraint, intensity, privacy, or physical comfort are involved.

Consent is specific and ongoing. It can be withdrawn at any time, including after a previous yes or a shared checklist result. Start with the level of communication and preparation that fits the people involved; if an answer is unclear, slow down and return to the conversation.

Looking for broad vocabulary before going item by item? The free Kink Test offers a separate six-scale profile; this checklist is for specific ideas and conversations.